Part 3 of 3 – Survey of submissive men
Alright, my empowered Dominant ladies, let’s take a delicious dive into how these fine gentlemen envision their ideal Female-Led Relationship (FLR). These survey responses are a treasure trove of fantasies, desires, and commitments that paint a vivid picture of the devotion they are eager to offer. Let’s break it down and see what it means for you as you explore or deepen your FLR dynamics.
The All-Encompassing Control = Female-Led Bliss
The overarching theme in these responses is a desire for total control. Many men express a longing for a relationship where you, the Dominant Female, hold all the reins. This includes making all significant decisions, managing their daily routines, and controlling their sexual release. Terms like “Goddess/servant” and “total loving control in all ways possible” are repeated throughout, indicating a deep-seated need for a structured, authoritative dynamic.
Devotion and Service
Another common thread is the expression of devotion through service. Men want to perform daily tasks, prioritise your needs, and follow strict rules and protocols. They are not only willing but eager to handle household chores, run errands, and ensure that every aspect of your life is smooth and enjoyable. This kind of service-oriented submission is about more than just doing chores—it’s about showing love and commitment by making your life easier and more pleasurable.
Emotional and Intellectual Connection
Many respondents also highlight the importance of a meeting of hearts and minds. They want a relationship that is not only structured and controlled but also compassionate, communicative, and intellectually stimulating. This balance of authority and emotional intimacy is critical to creating a fulfilling and sustainable FLR.
Public and Private Dynamics
There’s a fascinating duality in how these men envision their roles in public and private. Publicly, many prefer a relationship that looks relatively egalitarian, but privately, they want to be wholly deferential and obedient. They cherish subtle displays of dominance in public, like you making decisions on their behalf, which reinforce their submissive role without drawing too much attention.
Sexual Dominance and Chastity
Sexual dynamics play a significant role in these ideal FLRs. Many men express a desire for you to control their orgasms through chastity devices and strict rules around sexual release. This control extends to various forms of sexual service, from regular maintenance spankings to more intense forms of dominance like pegging and enforced chastity. These practices are not just about the physical acts but are deeply tied to their emotional and psychological submission.
Rituals and Protocols
Structured rituals and protocols are also highly valued. Men want clear guidelines about their roles and expectations, and they derive satisfaction from following these rules. This could include daily rituals like preparing your clothes, running your bath, or being kept in specific positions or states (like naked at home). These rituals provide a constant reminder of their submissive status and your dominant position.
Loving Authority
A consistent theme is the need for loving, compassionate authority. Men want to feel cared for even as they are controlled. They are looking for a Dominant partner who can balance strictness with empathy, someone who can enforce rules and administer discipline while also providing emotional support and understanding.
Social and Community Aspects
Finally, many respondents envision an FLR that includes social elements, such as being part of a community of like-minded couples or having social gatherings where their submissive status is acknowledged and respected. This social validation can enhance the dynamic by providing a sense of belonging and shared purpose.
Conclusion – Female-Led Bliss
In summary, the ideal FLR for these men is one where you, as the Dominant woman, hold total control, supported by a structure of rituals and protocols. They crave a relationship that balances strict authority with emotional intimacy, public discretion with private deference, and sexual dominance with loving care. Embrace these insights to craft a dynamic that is both deeply fulfilling and authentically powerful. You have the tools to create a relationship where your leadership is not only respected but cherished. So, go forth and lead with confidence, knowing that there are many men ready and eager to submit to your extraordinary power.
To learn more about building a FLR, read the Temple.
Hi,
I would like to comment on the drawing included with this post. I’d like to see the woman either smaller or equall in physical statue to the male. One of the most interesting aspects, to me, of FLR is that the women I’ve been drawn to are physically smaller than myself. Although I’m physically larger and stronger than the woman, it’s her intelligence, attitude and femininity to which I submit.
Thank you for this list. I also think sincere and secure submissive men should be outspoken about their innate devotion and obedience to women. Too often, submissive men live their lives in a closet – afraid to speak out and celebrate their natural deference and subservience to women who we proudly see as our superiors. Female dominance is the natural order; gynarchy is the future.
All social and community aspects are, in my opinion, very necessary and advisable. Not only do they reinforce the dynamic by minimizing the space in which men can appear equal to women, but they can also spread the idea of relationships based on full domination of women. Such communities would support other women in building FLR, educate how to achieve full control and deal with problems, and shape other men’s attitudes.
In social gatherings during which men would function fully in their natural role could be attended by women who would like to get to know this kind of relationship, see what it looks like live, ask questions and then implement FLR in their relationships.
It would also be possible to organize training for men in the field of home running, cooking, ironing, cleaning, care and pedicure courses so that they could acquire the necessary skills and improve their qualifications. And also for women with management, running a business, psychology, etc.
As a consequence, more and more “women only” places could be created in the public space, which single men would not have access to: cafes, restaurants, cinemas, sports clubs, hair and beauty salons, hotels and guesthouses. In such places, the principle of “men only under the supervision of women” would apply – analogous to the places where there is a plaque “dogs lead on a leash”
There could be swimming pools, saunas, beaches “men only naked and in a chastity cage”
In shopping centers could be created “containment” for men whose owners would like to calmly shop in a woman’s circle, but with their men at hand and under supervision.
During holiday trips, a woman would decide whether on a given day a man can accompany her in her entertainment or direct him to work in the facility (cleaning rooms, working in the kitchen, etc.) Which would give the owners of the tourist facilities additional savings.
Of course, in such circles, the standard would be that some women have more than one man because it should be every woman’s right.
By developing social and community aspects, women would become stronger and more confident, and thinking “I’m not married/partner, I’m an owner” would become more common. This would foster openness in conversations about relationships, the functioning of their men, discussing men’s intimate issues and thus strengthening women’s power. Men, on the other hand, would see that they are not single submissive, often ashamed of this submission, but that they are part of a community where male submission is the norm. It would change your male perspective and psyche and there would be no “how many women you had” conversations but rather “when you had your last ejaculation”
We need space and social circles where women can openly discuss issues related to men’s training, punishment, control, chastity, and obedience. Also in the presence of these men. Where women meeting with friends could take their men knowing that the rules they established still apply and there is no need to pretend anything. Where the fact that a man is in a chastity cage, collar, on a leash or even naked does not shock or outrage anyone and other people treat it as something obvious.
And where men can be talked about like pets…
Unfortunately, the vision is beautiful but so far utopian. As of today, it is even difficult to find couples living in FLR, knowledge about FLR is very negligible.
I can’t find online communities FLR, forums, objects in which FLR, Femdom, CFNM rules apply and female domination comes down to pornographic Bdsm.
How can we change it?
The results of the survey don’t surprise me at all. I think my husband would have given pretty much the same answers. If I had noticed the survey, I would have even allowed him to take part. He isn’t allowed to go online very often and if he does, then only on sites with no sexual content.
But what I would be very interested in are the questions you chose in the survey. Unfortunately, it is no longer online. Dear Ms. Boulder, it would be great if you could perhaps publish the questions again. Gladly as a simple list.
Best wishes, Claudia