Dominating your husband’s spare time

Dominating your husband's time

In a previous article, we discussed how a woman in a female-led relationship could dominate her husband’s social life; in this article, we will look at his spare time and how to dominate it for the benefit of the couple.

Dominating your husband’s spare time is a great way to set the relationship on the right track and strengthen the bond.

Well, darlings, for those radiant women who stand tall and unapologetic in their supremacy, here’s how you artfully control every precious second of your man’s time within a Female-Led Relationship. Buckle up!

The benefits of managing his time

In a consensual female-led relationship (FLR) where the woman takes a dominant role over a man’s spare time, there can be several benefits for the woman. It’s crucial to understand that these benefits arise from a place of mutual understanding, trust, and desire for this dynamic from both partners:

  • Fulfilment of Personal Desires: A woman might derive personal satisfaction and pleasure from taking a dominant role. This could be a source of empowerment, fulfilling a personal kink, or simply enjoying the dynamic of control.
  • Enhanced Intimacy: Dominating a man’s spare time can create an intensified sense of intimacy between the couple. The man’s surrender and vulnerability can be profoundly bonding, building trust and intimacy.
  • Efficient Time Management: By controlling his spare time, the woman can ensure that time is allocated effectively for mutual activities, bonding, and chores. This can help create a balanced life where partners share responsibilities and leisure moments.
  • Minimised Distractions: If she feels certain hobbies or friends are taking too much of his attention or are not conducive to their relationship, dominating his free time allows her to steer him towards more constructive or mutually beneficial activities.
  • Shared Goals and Growth: Directing his spare time towards shared goals (like fitness, learning a new skill, or building something together) ensures that both partners grow together and strengthen their bond.
  • Cultivation of Desired Qualities: If the woman wishes to encourage or cultivate certain habits or qualities in the man, having a say in how he spends his spare time can be beneficial. For example, if she believes he would benefit from reading more, she might suggest or direct him to spend some of his free time with books.
  • Strengthening the FLR Dynamic: Dominating his spare time can reinforce the dynamics of their relationship, constantly reminding both of the roles they’ve chosen and keeping the relationship aligned with its core principles.
  • Peace of Mind: Knowing where and how he’s spending his free time can offer a sense of security and peace of mind, especially if there are concerns about outside influences or distractions.
  • Increased Appreciation and Gratitude: When a man willingly submits his free time, it can lead to heightened appreciation and gratitude towards the woman for her guidance and direction.
  • Enhanced Communication: The need to discuss, negotiate, and communicate about time spent ensures regular check-ins and conversations, leading to a relationship where communication channels remain open and active.
Dominating your husband's time
Dominating your husband’s time

Dominating your husband’s spare time – How to make use of his time

When directing his spare time, there are three main areas women tend to focus their husband’s time in a FLR:

  1. Being useful – He uses his spare time for housework, chores and errands. By taking the strain of more chores, it can alleviate the workload and stress on the dominant partner, allowing her to focus on other tasks or simply relax. This also gives your husband a sense of direction and purpose, obeying you and completing tasks assigned to him.
  2. Serving his Goddess – He uses his spare time to worship, pamper and otherwise spend quality time with you. A goddess deserves worship. Ensure you’ve allocated enough time in his busy schedule to bask in your glory.
  3. Becoming the best version of himself: He uses his spare time to improve himself or the relationship. You could enrol him in fitness classes, cooking classes, work on boosting his mental health and emotional well-being, expose him to more culture, improve his diet and nutrition, instruct him to volunteer in the community; the opportunities are endless under your guidance.

Dominating your husband’s spare time -Techniques for managing his time

Managing his every move would be exhausting; here are some techniques to simplify delegation and keep him on his toes. The goal is a productive and obedient husband with minimal effort on your part:

  • Structured Scheduling: Because spontaneity is overrated and, let’s be honest, men are so much more productive when they’re given a roadmap. Draft him a daily guide—spoon-feed him his day, if you will.
  • Task Lists: Some say lists are for shopping. We say lists are to keep him busy and ever-aware of his purpose. Keep him on his toes with a delightful mix of chores and challenges.
  • Digital Calendars: Embrace the modern age and schedule his life with the tap of a finger. Alert him with electronic reminders. Ah, technology – making female domination efficient!
  • Check-ins: There’s no joy like watching a man report his progress. Plus, those adorable moments when he stumbles over his words? Priceless!
  • Time Tracking: Time flies when you’re having fun, but not on your watch. Use time-tracking apps to ensure he’s not dilly-dallying. Efficiency is the game!
  • Rewards and Consequences: A little incentive never hurts. Dangle the carrot and, occasionally, brandish the stick. It’s all in the name of motivation.
  • Limit Distractions: The world is a shiny place, especially for men. It’s best to keep his eyes on the prize (that’s you, by the way) and away from the endless abyss of internet cat videos.
  • Quality Time Together: Feedback Sessions: Hold court and let him voice his ‘opinions’. While the decisions are ultimately yours, it’s entertaining to watch him try.

In the following article, I’ll describe the practical steps to take control, manage your emotions whilst he is busy serving you, and what to do with YOUR spare time once he is taking the strain.

Author: Cat Boulder

Meet Cat Boulder: a sassy blogger unapologetically championing Female Supremacy with a cheeky grin and a sharp pen. She's not just preaching women's strength and leadership – she's a live wire sparking a gender-role rebellion. For Cat, women are more than leaders; they're queens to be served joyfully by men, weaving bonds of strength and sisterhood in every aspect of life. Through her zesty prose, she empowers women to own their dominance while guiding men to embrace humble servitude with gusto. Forget traditional norms – Cat's writing ignites a feisty journey towards a world where women reign supreme, and relationships bask in a harmonious matriarchy. Follow Cat on Tumblr, X or Instagram

10 thoughts on “Dominating your husband’s spare time”

  1. Yes, and I would have been much better if I had a woman who would manage my time and hold me accountable. As it is, much of my time was wasted doing unproductive things. Not too late, and I’m in an active search.

  2. Spare time, like all other aspects of the inferior male’s life, must be controlled by the Superior Female as a constant reminder of who is in charge of the FLR!

      1. I must say, Cat, that of all I have read about FLRs your writings are the most sound and make the most sense. I dream of finding myself in such a relationship!

  3. I recently installed a tracking app on my phone, then showed it to my wife. Now she can also monitor all my phone activity such as texts, phone calls or social media as well, when she wants to. She can make changes to the settings without me knowing. This has been a big plus for keeping me off the phone, and for her to control who I communicate with. Less time on the phone, means more time devoted to her. It’s been very positive, because if I tell her I am going to a certain place, I can’t deviate from that without her knowing, and I must come straight home as told to. Because she will know otherwise. This tracking app has been wonderful for my wife to control my time, and who I talk to, while tracking my every move if she wants. Yet it takes minimal effort for her to do this.

    1. Who is in charge here? Be careful not to top from the bottom. Even your language suggests your fulfilling your own fantasies rather than serving your wife’s needs.

  4. As a male, i know that i am far more productive and happy when my Goddess creates structure around my workload. Early on in our relationship i knew She was The One just from Her attitudes and beliefs. From the get go She struck me as the ‘Bossy’ type, which appealed to me greatly. Just as You say She told me quite early on that ” men have to be useful ” and that She “enjoys bossing me around”. The structure sure helps me get done what She needs doing but She doesn’t in any way make it easy. Things have to be done all right but only in the exact way She specifies. Otherwise i get a good kicking and am made to do it again. There’s no back talk just get back to work and “do it right this time”.

    1. My guess is that you are getting very good at doing your chores, that having very specific and exacting expectations and the resultant kicking for not achieving the expected quality has provided you with the incentive to learn how they should be done and the need for Her to micromanage you diminishes quickly, which will improve Her life with the least amount of effort on Her part in the long run.
      It’s so much better to live with a Woman who is clear and concise in explaining what is expected and then appreciates your efforts rather than living a vanilla dynamic where She is unable to teach you to how to do chores, to assign you chores and is always unhappy because She is doing the drudgery of housework without support, even having to remind a partner to do the simplest of things and then having to redo them because the guy can’t figure out the laundry or how a toilet brush works. Then She is always dissatisfied and unable to express Her disappointment, loses Her libido from the unspoken anger and lack of respect and the relationship gets stale with no one getting what they want and need from each other.

  5. We’ve used a chore tracking app before to allow her to assign me chores and track my progress. Of course, it’s designed to allow me to assign chores to her, too, but I would NEVER consider such a thing.
    Those apps have improved over time. Nipto is our current favorite. It lets her prioritize chores. It can even score completed chores, which she can then use for weekly goal setting and rewards as she sees fit.

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