How to deal with disobedient husbands

disobedient husbands

A question from a reader:

“I have just been introduced to FLR’s. How do you keep the reigns on an early-stage relationship when someone bucks requests?

Ah, darling, welcome to the exhilarating world of Female-Led Relationships (FLRs)! It’s always a pleasure to guide women like you on their journey to embrace their inner dominatrix and lead with confidence. Let’s talk about disobedient husbands, keeping those reins firmly in your grasp when your partner starts to test the waters.

First and foremost, communication is your most potent weapon. Sit down with your partner and have an open, honest, and explicit conversation about your desires, expectations, and boundaries. Let him know that your leadership is not just a game but a fundamental part of your relationship dynamic. Make sure he understands that disobedience has consequences.

Steps for dealing with disobedient husbands

When your partner starts to “buck” your requests, consider these tactics:

  • Firm but Fair: Be assertive, not aggressive. Explain your reasons behind your requests and make sure he knows it’s for the betterment of your relationship. Maintain your cool and let your confidence shine.
  • Positive Reinforcement: Reward good behaviour. Praise and reward him when he complies with your wishes. It could be as simple as a whispered “Good boy” or a more enticing promise for later.
  • Consequences: If he continues to resist, implement consequences. These should be fair and agreed upon in advance. It could be a temporary restriction or an extra chore he must complete. Consistency is key here.
  • Tease and Deny: A little sensual teasing can be a powerful tool. Show him the rewards of submission by tantalising him with what he desires most, and let him know it’s within his grasp if he obeys.
  • Lead by Example: Don’t forget that you are his ultimate role model. Demonstrate the grace and strength of a confident leader in your everyday life.
  • Educate and Empower: Encourage him to educate himself about FLRs and their benefits. The more he understands, the more likely he is to embrace the lifestyle willingly.

Remember, darling, every relationship is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. FLRs are about finding your own path to dominance while nurturing a loving and consensual connection. Trust your instincts, and don’t be afraid to explore new techniques and strategies. With time and patience, you’ll have those reins held firmly in your hands, and your partner will willingly follow your lead, craving the magnetic power of your authority.

disobedient husbands
How to deal with disobedient husbands


  • So, your man, bless his heart, thinks showing up late to your dinner date is a minor infraction? Think again, sugarplum. Now, I’m not saying unleash the Kraken, but how about confiscating his phone for an evening and treating him to some face-to-face conversation instead? You know, that thing couples did before Apple took over the world.
  • He promised to do the dishes and yet there they are, a ceramic mountain mocking you from the sink. In this case, ‘forgetfulness’ has earned him a sexy game of “maid for a day.” Dress him up, dish gloves and all, and let him earn his way back into your good graces, one sparkling plate at a time.
  • So you dressed up, feeling like you just walked out of a Vogue shoot, and he can’t muster up more than a distracted, “You look nice”? Cue the theatrics! For such a crime against appreciation, he has to write a heartfelt essay titled “Why My Woman is a Goddess.” Once he’s done, make him read it aloud. Trust me, the memory of this will have him gushing compliments for weeks.
  • He thinks it’s innocent to cast flirty glances at the waitress? Cue the playful spanking session when you get home. Just enough to remind him where his attention should be centred—on you, his unparalleled Queen.
  • He’s served his time in the “disciplinary chamber” (which can range from a literal space to a metaphorical condition you’ve engineered). Now, sweep in like the benevolent dictator you are. Wrap him in a cozy blanket, plant tender kisses on his forehead, and discuss what he’s learned from this enriching experience.
  • He forgot to take out the trash again, even after a previous “reminder”? Time to withhold that Netflix password until further notice. Binge-watching privileges are for good boys only. The recurring offense needs a recurring consequence.

Punishment for disobedient husbands

Punishment, when used consensually and thoughtfully, can be a powerful tool for reinforcing your authority and maintaining discipline. Here’s how you can incorporate it into your dynamic:

  • Consensual Agreement: The key to any form of punishment is consent. Before implementing any disciplinary measures, ensure you and your partner are on the same page. Discuss what actions or behaviours will warrant punishment and what those punishments might entail.
  • Fair and Proportional: Punishments should be fair and proportional to the offence. They should fit the “crime,” so to speak. For minor transgressions, a warning or a time-out might suffice, while more severe breaches could require a more significant consequence.
  • Clear Communication: Make sure your partner understands why he is being punished and what he can do to avoid it in the future. Effective communication is crucial for growth and improvement.
  • Variety is Key: Punishments can take various forms, depending on your preferences and the severity of the situation. Some options to consider include corner time, writing assignments, withholding privileges, or even playful spankings.
  • Aftercare: Just as in any BDSM-related activity, aftercare is essential. After a punishment, ensure your partner feels loved and supported. Reassure him of your affection and the purpose behind the discipline.
  • Consistency: Consistency is vital in maintaining authority. If you establish specific rules and consequences, be sure to enforce them consistently. This will help your partner understand the boundaries of your FLR.
  • Reassess and Adjust: FLRs are dynamic and ever-evolving. Periodically reassess your rules and the effectiveness of punishments. Adjust them as needed to ensure your relationship continues to thrive.

Remember, darling, the goal of punishment in an FLR is not to cause harm but to foster growth and maintain a healthy power dynamic. It explores trust, respect, and desire for mutual satisfaction. Keep the lines of communication open, be sensitive to your partner’s needs and limits, and above all, savour the exhilarating journey of female-led dominance. Enjoy your newfound authority, my fierce leader!


Author: Cat Boulder

Meet Cat Boulder: a sassy blogger unapologetically championing Female Supremacy with a cheeky grin and a sharp pen. She's not just preaching women's strength and leadership – she's a live wire sparking a gender-role rebellion. For Cat, women are more than leaders; they're queens to be served joyfully by men, weaving bonds of strength and sisterhood in every aspect of life. Through her zesty prose, she empowers women to own their dominance while guiding men to embrace humble servitude with gusto. Forget traditional norms – Cat's writing ignites a feisty journey towards a world where women reign supreme, and relationships bask in a harmonious matriarchy. Follow Cat on Tumblr, X or Instagram

5 thoughts on “How to deal with disobedient husbands”

  1. Thank you. I am a male submissive about to embark in a relationship with a professional dom. I follow your blogs avidly and they fill me with a true purpose in life.

  2. Hi sister

    I was just wondering what would the world be like if we women continue to stay ahead of the male in our society and marriage. Like we women holds all power of authority in work places and houseswhole where where the gender roles are totally reversed.
    Do you foresee that would happen and what would we women should do now to empower more women in to flr.

    1. I wish Cat would chime in on this one, but it seems like its always the men who comment on these sites, me included. Here is my take at least on what women need to do to empower more women in flr for what it is worth.

      There is an old phrase, “money is power”. In the 50s, women didn’t work out of the home, and for the most part, the household and the world was dominated by men. Seventy years later, more and more women are getting advanced degrees and are moving up in the ranks of corporations. As this trend continues, men will be displaced by women in places of power and politics I used to follow a flr blogspot written by a kept male. In one of his blogs, he commented that if his goddess kicked him out of the house he would be helpless. He had long since given up his job to be a house husband/slave and would be out on the street with no way to support himself. So to support women in flr, you should encourage them to get advanced degrees and move up the corporate ladder until all of the hiring and political decisions are made by women.

      I don’t think every woman would want a stay at home husband, most households need two incomes to survive. In this case, the role of manhood needs to be redefined early in a male’s life. I recently read a study that most men feel pressure to be “manly” So, what is manly, needs to be defined to mean submitting and providing service to women. Young girls should be encouraged to be in charge and young men to submit to them by example. We are already seeing the beginning of this transformation in the way men and women are portrayed in movies and commercials, but it needs also be modeled in the home. Watching Mommy punish Daddy would send a powerful message to both genders. As I write this, it sounds strange, but this was normal in the 50s and 60s for men to punish their wifes, so why wouldn’t the reverse be acceptable.

      As to what it would be like, I don’t know. Since I am on this site, it is something I want to see happen, but it would be different for each individual. I am not what you would call a beta male exactly. I don’t like dressing up in women’s clothes. My submission comes from a deep love of women and the sense that the world would be a better place if they were in charge and I want to support that.

      In the end, people are individuals and I don’t think every household will be an FLR. I was surprised by how popular the book, “Fifty Shades of Grey” was when it was released. I gave the impression women still want a powerful alpha male to sweep them off their feet, or maybe a beta male at home and an alpha on the side. Not sure, but hopefully most women will be mostly in charge in the future.

  3. I am a submissive male and a lifelong believer in Female Superiority. I am just now discovering your website and agree completely with everything I’ve read. The future is Female!J

  4. I have only been looking at FLRs at the moment, but my thoughts are wouldn’t a husband who is disobedient possibly be a husband who really does not want to be in a FLR to begin with? If he really wanted to be in one with in his heart he really would not be disobedient on purpose.

    The only other cause I could think of is that the request given to him was unreasonable to begin with. A reasonable person who wants to be in this style of relationship and who loves his wife will comply with reasonable requests. An unreasonable request would put him in a position to be disobedient and in my opinion would be the fault of the dominant leader.

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