Pegging (Part Two)

In my previous article on pegging, we delved into the intoxicating world of anal play using butt plugs and strap-ons. We explored how pegging can reverse traditional sexual roles and enhance intimacy and trust. Read the first part here: https://femaleled.info/pegging-part-one/

In this tantalising sequel, we will look at pegging equipment and role-play scenarios.

Butt plug buyer guide

Welcome to the intriguing world of butt plugs, my adventurous divas and their devoted subjects!

Size Matters

• Beginner: Start small, darling. A plug with a diameter of around 1 inch is an ideal place to begin your journey.
• Intermediate to Advanced: Once you’ve got a few dance routines under your belt, you may wish to upgrade to something a bit more… substantial.

Material Girl

• Silicone: Flexible and easy to clean, this is often the go-to for beginners.
• Metal or Glass: These materials offer a deliciously smooth feel and the option for temperature play. Just remember, they’re less forgiving than silicone.

Shape of You

• Tapered: Excellent for beginners. The gradual shape makes insertion less intimidating.
• Bulbed or Contoured: For the more experienced, these shapes can offer added stimulation.

Base Instincts

• Flared Base: This is non-negotiable for safety, as it prevents the toy from taking an unplanned expedition.
• Suction Cup or Handle: Some people find these easier to manoeuvre.

Extra, Extra!

• Vibration: If you crave a little buzz, some plugs come with this tantalising feature.
• Jewelled or Decorative Bases: For those who want their butt plug to be both a pleasure device and a work of art.

Do Your Homework

• Read Reviews: See what other audacious couples have to say about their experiences.
• Quality Control: Always choose plugs from reputable retailers. His backdoor deserves the best!

Lubrication Station

• Silicone-Based: Offers longer-lasting slickness but avoid using it with silicone toys.
• Water-Based: Safe for all toy materials but may require reapplication.

Remember, in a female-led relationship, the queen decides what goes into her treasure chest of toys. So, make the choice that empowers you and elevates the experience for both parties.

Strap-on Buyers Guide

Welcome to the world of pegging, my daring divas! If you’re going to be the queen of this new realm, you’ll need the right sceptre and throne, so to speak. Let’s get you fitted with the perfect starter kit for your pegging escapades, shall we?

Harness The Power

• Material: For beginners, a fabric or nylon harness is cost-effective and machine-washable. More experienced? Leather has that delicious dominatrix vibe.
• Adjustability: Look for multiple points of adjustment. A snug fit means better control; control is your middle name, darling.
• O-Ring: Some harnesses have interchangeable O-rings to fit dildos of different sizes. This is your arsenal; options are a good thing.

The Main Event: Dildo Selection

• Size: Think Goldilocks—neither too big nor too small. Something between 5-7 inches is a good starter length, and girth is your personal prerogative.
• Material: Silicone is usually the safest bet; it’s non-porous, hypoallergenic, and easy to clean.
• Shape: A slight curve can be excellent for prostate stimulation. But, honestly, you’re the artist; pick your brush accordingly.

Lube: The Unsung Hero

• Type: Water-based lubes are versatile and toy-friendly.
• Quantity: More is more, darling. Buy a decent-sized bottle; this isn’t a single-use adventure.

Extras

• Vibrations: Some harnesses come with pockets for bullet vibrators for a little extra buzz for you.
• Starter Kits: If decision-making isn’t your forte, there are pegging starter kits with harnesses, dildos, and sometimes even lube included.

Reviews & Research

• Testimonials: Other women-led relationships have been here before you. Read reviews and maybe even consult forums.
• Retailers: Stick to reputable adult shops or websites. You want quality for this mission.

Safety Gear

• Condoms: Especially if you plan to share toys or switch between vaginal and anal play.
• Cleansers: Toy cleansers exist for a reason; hygiene first, always.

In a woman-led relationship, you’re not just leading in life but in the bedroom as well. So make those decisions with the same panache you bring to everything else. Select your pegging gear like you’re choosing a new car: consider the ride, the handling, and how good you’ll look in the driver’s seat. Now, go forth and conquer, you audacious empress, you!

Cleaning duty

Ah, the art of delegation, a skill every queen should master. Now that you’ve invested in these luxurious toys, they deserve royal treatment. And who better to entrust with the care of your sceptres and crowns than your loyal subject? Make it his responsibility to clean, sanitise, and safely store your toys after each use. Turn it into a ritualistic act of devotion; he’s not just washing silicone, he’s preserving the instruments of your shared pleasure and, dare I say, your power over him. Inspect his work, of course, because quality control is a must. By delegating this task, you’re not just making your life easier; you’re giving him a tangible way to serve you. And service, my dear, is the cornerstone of any well-run queendom.

Pegging games and role-play

Ah, the nuanced choreography of deepening submission through anal play—a classic in the making! When done correctly, this form of intimate exchange can be the perfect blend of vulnerability and pleasure, a catalyst for intensifying his surrender to you. So, let’s explore some captivating games, rituals, and role-play scenarios designed to elevate this delicious dynamic, shall we?

Games

• Treasure Hunt: Insert a small, safely-shaped toy (with a flared base, of course) and let him wear it during a casual evening at home. Every hour on the hour, he must report how it feels, verbally affirming his submission.
• Plug Roulette: Have a selection of plugs in different sizes and shapes. Blindfold him, spin him around, and let fate decide which one he gets. The unpredictability adds an extra layer of excitement.

Rituals

• Preparation Ceremony: Make the act of cleaning and lubing the plug or toy a submissive ritual. Let him present it to you on a small cushion, kneeling as if offering a tribute to his queen.
• Countdown to Insertion: Counting down from ten (or more, if you’re feeling dramatic) can build anticipation and provide a structured space for him to focus his submission.

Ten role-play scenarios involving pegging

1. The Teacher and the Naughty Student: You’re the stern educator, and he’s failed to turn in his “assignments” on time. It’s time for some after-school discipline that goes beyond the chalkboard.
2. Doctor and Patient: You’re the doctor with a groundbreaking new “treatment,” and he’s your willing patient. Medical jargon has never been so stimulating.
3. Detective and Interrogation Suspect: You’re the hot-shot detective, and he’s got the information you need. Only your methods are anything but conventional. This case won’t crack itself!
4. The Goddess and Her Worshipper: Adorn yourself as a divine deity, and he’s your devout follower. His worship involves more than just prayer; it’s an offering of himself.
5. Personal Trainer and Client: He’s looking to get fit, and you’re the expert. Only your definition of “stretching exercises” is a bit more… intimate.
6. CEO and Secretary: You’re the corporate powerhouse, and he’s your new secretary. It’s time to show him who’s the real boss, both in and out of the boardroom.
7. Cowboy and Sheriff: In this Wild West tale, you’re the sheriff, and he’s the cowboy who’s been causing a ruckus. It’s time to show him the law.
8. The Queen and Her Knight: A medieval fantasy where you’re the queen, and he’s the knight who must perform various “quests” to win your favour. The Holy Grail was never like this.
9. Spy vs. Spy: You’re rival spies forced to collaborate on a mission. The sexual tension is high, and the only way to resolve it is to take control, James Bond-style.
10. The Artist and the Muse: You’re a groundbreaking artist looking for new inspiration, and he’s willing to be your canvas. Your tools? A harness, a dildo, and a vision that’s as erotic as it is artistic.

So, there you have it, ladies. With scenarios like these, who needs to binge-watch drama when you can act out your own? Get into character and direct your masterpiece. Lights, camera, strap-on!

Using a plug whilst you are apart

Ah, the subtle yet potent magic of having him plugged while apart, a divine reminder that even when you’re not in the room, you’re very much in his thoughts—and, quite literally, under his skin. This discreet act turns an ordinary workday into an ongoing secret rendezvous. It’s as if he’s carrying a part of you, your authority, and your intimate connection with him everywhere he goes.

Every movement he makes, every time he sits or stands, serves as a little nudge—a physical reminder of your omnipresence in his life. It’s not merely a silicone or metal object; it’s an extension of your will, your dominion wrapped up in a few inches of well-crafted material. It whispers to him throughout the day, saying, “Remember who you belong to, darling.”

For him, the plug becomes a talisman of his submission, a physical sensation that keeps his mental and emotional focus razor-sharp on you, his queen. It heightens his senses, amplifies his anticipation for the moment he’ll be back in your presence, and leaves him with a potent cocktail of vulnerability and excitement that you’ll both savour once reunited.

It’s like an invisible thread that ties him to you, no matter the distance. You’re not just his thoughts; you’re in the very core of his being, a constant, tactile reminder of the unique dynamic you both treasure. Your absence becomes an intricate dance of presence, and oh, how he cherishes every step.

Plugged in the boardroom

Picture this: John, a finance executive, is prepping for a big board meeting. It’s a high-stakes day, but today is different. Before he left home, you inserted your chosen plug, locking eyes with him as you counted down from ten and pushed it in at the final count. “Remember who you belong to,” you whispered, sealing the ritual.

Now, he’s in his office, fine-tuning his PowerPoint slides, but the plug serves as an unyielding reminder of your shared morning ritual. Every time he shifts in his leather chair, there’s that gentle pressure, that delicious little ache that transports him back to you, even if just for a second.

He navigates the day with an air of confidence, but it’s different this time. It’s not just self-assuredness; it’s a nuanced blend of vulnerability and empowerment grounded in his submission to you. During the board meeting, he nails his presentation, but in the back of his mind, he’s acutely aware of the plug, of you. It’s as if you’re there in the room with him, a silent partner willing him to succeed.

The moment the meeting adjourns, he checks his phone. There’s a text from you: “Well?” His fingers dance quickly over the screen as he types his reply, “Nailed it. Can’t wait to see you.” Your response is swift and to the point: “Good boy. I knew you would. The evening will be all about your reward and my pleasure.”

For the rest of the workday, he’s floating on air, propelled by a sense of accomplishment in the boardroom and the anticipation of submitting to you in the bedroom. The plug, still securely in place, is a physical manifestation of your psychological hold over him. This constant tactile whisper keeps the theme of his submission playing softly in the background of his busy life.

So, when he finally walks through the door that evening, it’s not just a man returning from work. He is submissive, eager and ready to reunite with his dominant. The plug did more than just provide physical sensation; it kept the rhythm of his submission in sync with the melody of your dominance, creating a harmonious symphony that both of you are eager to continue composing.

Getting him to suck the strap on

Ah, the ultimate act of submission, where he pays homage to your divine sceptre! It’s not just about the physical act but also the symbolic layers that turn the experience into an emotionally charged spectacle. Nothing says “totally dominated man” more than your submissive husband on his knees, hands behind his back, dutifully worshipping your strap-on.

Setting the Stage
Imagine a setting where you’ve already introduced pegging into your repertoire, perhaps after a successful round of “The Queen and Her Knight” role-play. You’re lying on the bed, dressed in a lacey robe, your strap-on already donned. He’s kneeling at the edge of the bed, eyes locked onto yours, awaiting your next command.

The Command
You crook your finger, beckoning him closer. “If you’re going to serve me,” you say, with a voice that drips authority like honey, “it’s time you get acquainted with every aspect of your queen’s regalia.”

The Execution
He crawls over, reverence in his eyes. This is not just an act of physical submission but also a ritual, a sacrament in the religion of your relationship. As he takes the strap-on into his mouth, his eyes look up to find yours, and the spark of connection is electric, a circuit completed.

The Emotional Impact
You feel a swell of power rush through you. You’re not just his queen; you’re his universe, the axis on which his world turns. For him, this act is an affirmation, a pledge of allegiance to your female-led dynamic, sealed in the most intimate way possible.

The Aftermath
Afterwards, as he rests his head on your thigh, the strap-on still in sight but no longer the focal point, you both share a knowing look. Words are unnecessary. The act has spoken volumes, a dialogue of dominance and submission, penned in the silent language of true connection.

So, the next time you’re craving an encounter that’s both carnal and cerebral, don’t underestimate the power of this provocative act. It’s not just about the physicality but the mental and emotional landscape it unlocks. So go ahead, make him bow before your throne in every sense of the word. After all, you’re the author of this tale; make sure it’s a bestseller.

So, there we have it, ladies. Here are some ideas to add pegging and plugs into your female-led repertoire! Let me know in the comments if you have any other ideas to share.