How to be a Good Husband (1950’s style)

The 1950s were a time of pearls and pies, but also of some rather cringeworthy notions about gender roles. Imagine a man coming home and expecting his lady to have dinner on the table, not because she loves to cook, but because it’s her “duty”. Or those cheeky ads where a woman’s greatest aspiration is to keep her floors shiny enough to see her reflection – heavens forbid she wants to run a company or, you know, have any ambitions beyond floor polish!

Then there’s that classic, “A woman’s place is in the kitchen.” Well, times have changed, sweetie! A woman’s place is wherever she decides it should be – whether that’s in the boardroom, in the lab, in the halls of government, or yes, even in the kitchen if that’s where she chooses to be.
And let’s not forget about dating. A woman waiting passively for a man to make all the moves? Oh, please! In today’s world, a confident woman takes charge of her love life. She knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to pursue it.

In these households, darling, the men were typically the breadwinners, striding out into the world to earn the daily crust, while the women were the homemakers, the queens of their domestic realms. The woman’s role was to manage the home, cook, clean, and care for the children, all while looking impeccably groomed – a standard that’s as exhausting as it sounds!

Now, fast forward to today, where we can redefine roles in our relationships, adding a splash of empowerment and a twist of mutual respect. Isn’t it delightful to think of a world where we, as women, can lead with confidence, whether in the boardroom or the bedroom, and where men can find strength in supporting and admiring these powerful women? The 1950s may have had their charm, but give me the complexity and freedom of today any time. Let’s rewrite the script, shall we?

1950’s Household in reverse

A reversal of the 1950s dynamic? Oh, now that’s a tantalising thought! Imagine flipping the script on that black-and-white movie, bringing in a vibrant splash of modern hues. In this delightful reversal, the woman strides confidently into the world as the breadwinner, the decision-maker, and the leader. She’s the one donning the metaphorical suit and tie, stepping out with purpose and power. Her partner, on the other hand, embraces the role of homemaker, masterfully juggling the art of domestic bliss – from cooking to cleaning, and perhaps caring for the little ones.

In this reversed dynamic, the woman leads with her strength, her intellect, and her charm, while her partner supports her ambitions, admires her achievements, and contributes equally, albeit in different ways. It’s a delicious dance of balance where both partners find their rhythm in roles that suit them best, regardless of what history dictated.

Life in a 1950’s gender reversal

Her partner, the gentleman in this delightful reversal, takes on the traditional female role of the 1950s – but again, with a contemporary spin. He’s the heart of the home, ensuring that everything runs smoothly. He might be the one who greets her with a warm meal, maintains the home in tip-top shape, and provides a nurturing, supportive environment. He finds joy and pride in these roles as a fulfilling part of the relationship dynamic they’ve both enthusiastically embraced.

In their private life, the woman’s leading role could translate into a more dominant persona, guiding their intimate experiences with confidence and a keen understanding of her partner’s desires. This dynamic allows both partners to explore their sexuality in a safe, consensual, and exhilarating way.

And socially, they might enjoy challenging the norms. She could be the one leading conversations, making decisions about outings or investments, while he supports her choices and offers his insights in a respectful, collaborative manner.

How to be a good husband – 1950’s style

Inspired by 1950’s household stereotypes, here are some tips to be a good submissive husband, 1950’s style:

1. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for her return. This is a way of letting her know that you have been thinking about her and are concerned about her needs. Most women are hungry when they get home, and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
2. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when she arrives. Check your outfit, touch up your hair and be fresh-looking. She has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
3. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for her. Her boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
4. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your wife arrives.
5. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc., and then run a dustcloth over the tables.
6. Over the cooler months of the year, you should prepare and light a fire for her to unwind by. Your wife will feel she has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to her comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
7. Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and she would like to see them playing the part. Minimise all noise. At the time of her arrival, eliminate all noise from the washer, dryer, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
8. Be happy to see her.
9. Greet her with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please her.
10. Listen to her. You may have a dozen important things to tell her, but the moment of her arrival is not the time. Let her talk first – remember, her topics of conversation are more important than yours.
11. Make the evening hers. Never complain if she comes home later, goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand her world of strain and pressure and her very real need to be at home and relax.
12. Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquillity where your wife can renew herself in body and spirit.
13. Don’t greet her with complaints and problems.
14. Don’t complain if she’s late for dinner or even if she stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what she might have gone through at work.
15. Make her comfortable. Have her lean back in a comfortable chair or lie her down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for her.
16. Arrange her pillow and offer to take off her shoes. Speak in a low, soothing, and pleasant voice.
17. Don’t ask her questions about her actions or question her judgment or integrity. Remember, she is the master of the house and as such, will always exercise her will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question her.
18. A good husband always knows his place.

In conclusion, darlings, this playful guide serves as a delightful nod to the past while fiercely championing the essence of modern, female-led relationships. It’s a cheeky reminder that the real power lies in rewriting our roles and expectations, allowing us to savour the richness of a partnership where everyone thrives. Whether it’s in reversing traditional domestic roles or empowering women to lead with confidence and charm, this guide is an invitation to explore a world where love, respect, and a bit of role reversal can create a deliciously harmonious balance.

So, let’s embrace this dance of empowerment and mutual admiration, where each partner knows their place and flourishes in it, creating a relationship that’s as fulfilling as it is thrilling. Remember, a good husband knows his place; in this modern twist, that place is right where his powerful woman needs him to be.

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